“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Although many believe this quote was written by Maya Angelou, there is no evidence to support that claim. In fact, the Internet seems to give more credence to well-known poets than lesser-known writers when it comes time for attribution—so let’s just say this one was hers and be done with it.
What matters most in your daily interactions isn’t so much the specific actions you take or words you say, but how someone was made to feel: listened to or ignored, included or left out, or big instead of small. This is the essence of it.
People tend to remember how they feel long after the initial emotion has faded. So if you want to be in control of your relationships, it’s important that you think about how others will feel when dealing with you and then make sure not to give them reason for those feelings
First impressions have lasting effects, and a bad one can be hard to erase.
You can make a person feel good about themselves in many ways, making for lasting impressions.
To illustrate: being prepared, asking questions about them and their work, remembering names, offering genuine compliments—and avoiding reflexive pessimism.
The first impression you make with someone is important, and it can affect your relationship for years to come. If you want to make a good first impression, be yourself. Don’t try to be someone else just because you think they have what it takes to make a good impression. If you are yourself, chances are that person will like you for who you really are.
Almost any form of meditation will help reduce stress. Meditation has been shown to also reduce symptoms in people with medical conditions triggered by stress.
Meditating will make you feel naturally high. Much like the natural high a runner experiences.You will not be needing any kind of substance or chemical to feel good about yourself or to experience a feeling of being high.
Researchers have found that meditation increases resilience , and give the practicer a feeling of increased life satisfaction. They note resilience “can be seen as an important source of subjective well-being.”
Meditation creates a feeling of peace and harmony with ourselves and others. And, eliminates or reduces the flight of fight feelings than many people experience when they become anxious.
Feeling at peace with oneself is of the utmost importance for us to feel internally satisfied with who we are and how whether we feel satisfied with ourselves and the world around us.
Meditation softens our hearts and spurs us on to higher levels of consciousness. We find that we become more loving and our relationships are more harmonious and fulfilling.
Pessimism fades and optimism increases as we meditate. Our views of our fellow humans reflect our optimism as we become more understanding and accepting of opinions and less focused on our differences.
Take your time and be gentle towards yourself. Though I have been trained in several different forms of meditation I have found that simply focusing on your breath as you breath in and out is a great place to start.
When I do this type of meditation I make sure I’m comfortable , for me that is sitting with my back straight and my hands in my lap with my palms up. Once I’m comfortable I simply mentally count to four, then count backward from four, doing this in conjunction with each breath.
Here are the steps:
Breath in – count one
Breath out – count two
Breath in – count three
Breath out – count forth
Breath in – count three
Breath out – count two
Breath in – count one
Breath out – count two
Repeat the process. Try to slowly build up your time meditating so that you are comfortable in meditation for 20-30 minutes twice a day.
Wishing you all to have the best time meditating and may the peace of God rest upon each of you. Blessings, Bobby
Tina Turner… “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” Everything!
Love is amazing, listing loves attributes could fill dozens of pages. It’s love that keeps us centered and connected with each other; without love in our lives we feel depressed, lost and disconnected.
For some of us, when growing up there was no one to teach us, how to love and be loved. We spent much of our life “looking for love in all the wrong places”. So, now it’s up to us to learn how to love and be loved. The best thing about love is that it’s here for the asking, and it starts with us having an intention for love to fill our hearts.
If we begin to see ourselves as being a loving hearted person, we will soon find ourselves being that person. Directing our thoughts towards being a loving person brings us new insights as to how we to better treat ourselves, our fellow man, and all sentient beings.
Just by keeping the desire to be a loving hearted person at the forefront of our minds, will stir up our passions and emotions, so that having a loving heart becomes as natural as breathing. We find ourselves literally inhaling love with every breath and making ourselves into the person we were always meant to be.
“Tell me to what you pay attention and I will tell you who you are.” ~Jose Ortega y Gassett…
As we greet each morning we remember who we are and our purpose for being on this earth. We are being born anew, given another day so that we can be the essence of love. Our intentions are set on being loving hearted, its love we bring with us into the world, it’s what we have become. It does not matter who we were yesterday, it only matters who we are now! Love heals past hurts and pain, it’s the great game changer, freeing us up to be the person we were always meant to be.
When all of our intentions are on having loving hearts, we find forgiveness for ourselves and others to be as natural as breathing. We know in our heart-of-hearts, the deepest part of our beings, our sins and failing are always committed in ignorance. Understanding this allows us to free ourselves from self-pity and blame and to love unconditionally; freeing every other human being of their failings and any judgement we may have had of them.
It was Jesus who said “Father forgive them they know not what they do”. So,with the dawning of each day we awake, breathing in love, forgiving ourselves for what we have done in ignorance and forgiving those who have hurt us by their acts of ignorance. Yes, we are free, free, free at last to breathe in love, to be love, to give love.
The moment you wake up, a new day is beginning, you smile, realizing the power within.
With every breath we take, we are changing every aspect of our being; we are becoming something anew, we are manifesting something anew, our thoughts and words affect ourselves and the world around us.
When we are focused on being loving hearted, we become a safe harbor, a place of welcomeness, a place of peace. As loving hearted people, we are no longer consumed with ourselves. Instead, we are filled with a new spirit that transcends time and space; empowering us to heal ourselves physically, spiritually and emotionally. Our love becomes so profound, that where ever we go we find we are the love that heals the sick, comforts the brokenhearted, empowers the powerless, and enables the miraculous.
A Simple Loving Meditation…”Breath in Love!”
“Breathing in Love” is something all of us can do without any training. It is what we naturally desire to do. There are no rules or gurus to follow. As we focus our minds, and “breathe in love”, we become the presence of love, the manifestation of love, we quickly are able to identify our actual purpose, “breathing in love” becomes oxygen to our spirits, we know we have found our birthright.
A New Paradigm – Breathing In Love
Five years ago at our healing center, I found myself, and many of my students, clients and friends were able to enter quickly into a state that enabled us to maintain loving hearts. By just taking a few minutes each day to focus on “breathing in loving thoughts, we began to experience a complete change in our lives. It’s almost hard to belive how easy it was for us to enter into a state of loving bliss.
Anyone can do this, breathing in love takes no special skill. It as easy as taking a loving breath in and when exhaling, focusing on and attribute of love that came into our mind.
When we did this loving meditation as a group, I believe it manifested itself and did what love does best… healing bodies, minds, and spirits, empowering the meditators to not only experience receiving pure unconditional love, but allowing each of them to be conduits of love as it flowed to every other meditator in the room. It was as if all of us were born again in the midst of unconditional love, so powerful that it broke down evey barrie and carried us all across time and space.
“Suffer not the little children to come to me” ~ Jesus Christ… It’s amazing what a beautiful effect “breathing in love” has on us; it is as if we almost become like children, freely giving love and receiving love without conditions. Not like the love of the world, but the purest love of creation.
Examples Of Attributes Of Love: “I breathe out….”
Here are some suggested attributes of unconditional love. You may want to use some of them to start with and add to them as you go along. For this exercise, all you need to do is say: “I Breathe in Love” and as you breathe out state one, or as many of loves attributes that your heart desires.
Some of the practical aspects of “Breathing in Love” with every breath are…
Love accepts what the moment is.
Love is joyously waiting on others, to come along at their pace.
Love is embracing all creation with the deepest reverence.
Love prays the best of everything to come to every creature.
Love provides prosperity for every creature as required.
Love kneels first and gives unconditionally.
Love gives bows and honors all creation keeping no records of deeds.
Love regards all life as part of the creators family.
Love is compassionate towards every creature.
Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Three things will last forever faith, hope, and love and the greatest of these is love. ~ Saul-St.Paul
Focusing on the presence of love, and honoring its attributes, enables us to completely immerse ourselves in the present moment. By our being here and now, we find all we need for our immediate happiness, and yes even eternal life is found.
Throughout most of our lives many of us have tried to find perfect balance, first to love, and accept ourselves and to be in harmony with mankind, all living creatures, the environment and our universe. In our search for a perfectly balanced life, filled with love, peace, and harmony, we have had to traverse many different roads, many of which led us further from our true selves,
Breathing in love returns us to our true selves. The wonderful part of practicing “Breathing in Love” is that it encompasses and incorporates all that we have learned from our life experiences. It brings them into one single breath, the breath that sustains us now and for all eternity. The breath, of unconditional love.
Finally, when doing the Breathe In Love meditation, just be with yourself, you can let every thought arise. Yes, we let all thoughts come to us without judgment, for they are only thoughts and they have no form, or power except what we give them. So, we choose to love every thought, as we smile to ourselves and say thank you, thank you, thank you for these thoughts.
Our hearts rejoice as we “Breathe in Love” and breathe out the attributes of love! For many of us, it may truly be our first breath.
Robert C. Morgan, Doctor of Naturopathy & Counselor